FAMILY SYSTEM E-BOOK
In It Together
A practical guide for balancing roles and responsibilities while staying connected in parenthood
YOU MAY KEEP ASKING YOURSELF…
How do we keep it all together, address our never-ending to-do list, and have a strong relationship?
So much is required of us to be successful in parenting and life, we have to divide and conquer. But it can make us feel like we’re on different pages, or sometimes like we’re leading two entirely different lives.
However, it is possible to feel supported, seen, and loved well by each other during this time. You can also handle your responsibilities, without feeling like you’re drowning in them. And you can have space to rediscover who you are and create opportunities to do the things that are fun and fulfilling.
This unique guide offers practical tools and insights to create a comprehensive and connected Family System that fosters love, connection, and well-being for everyone.
ABOUT THE BOOK
Break free from keeping score and feeling like “Why is so much on me?!”
In It Together is designed with short and focused chapters, and at the end of each one you’ll have multiple choices to personalize your path through the guide based on your specific needs and interests.
Through this interactive guide you will:
Effectively collaborate on your roles and responsibilities including fairness, teamwork, and follow-through
Explore exercises, checklists, calendars, and tools to help you build a connected Family System
Learn how to break the cycle of repetitive arguments
Address valid reasons for ambivalence and understand where your feelings of disconnection started
Gain insight and action steps for when you’re consistently overwhelmed and overstimulated, and learn how to get your sense of self back
And so much more!
PRINCIPLES OF THE GUIDE
Connection + Structure
We believe that we must have both an equitable division of tasks and also principles and practices to nurture love and the feeling of being on the same team.
Make it Yours
This guide meets you where you are. Using our tools, you can tailor your Family System to fit your unique needs and values, life circumstances, and relationship.
Guess & Test
We won’t know the perfect structure until we try. You get to test new approaches and adjust as needed without being hard on each other or yourselves. It’s an ongoing collaboration.
Aim Toward Connection
When addressing these topics, it’s normal to end up in a bit of turmoil, but you’ll learn to use everything that arises as an opportunity for greater connection and love.
Let it Be Playful
Parenting and partnership can be incredibly demanding but you’ll learn to navigate issues and mishaps with more lightness and humility to balance out the intensity.
“It made such a difference, and we didn’t realize how much it was exactly what we needed.
When we first sat down with the guide, we have to admit that we didn’t really want to do it. It felt like yet another thing we had to do. But once we settled in we were laughing and feeling reconnected. It’s so worth it.”
KRISTY & ANDREW
MEET THE AUTHORS
Aaron Steinberg + Jessica Trouillaud
Aaron and Jessica are two of the Co-Founders of Grow Together, and they’ve both been with their spouses for over a decade and each have two young children. They have different personalities and different experiences as parents and partners. They know these issues inside and out and from all sides of the equation - both having been primary earners and stay-at-home parents.
Aaron and Jessica have complementary backgrounds. Aaron brings more than 10 years of experience in couples counseling and psychology, and Jessica brings more than 15 years of expertise in creating professional systems and structure. They came together through their shared passion for relationships and helping couples thrive.